What Would You Tell A Mom With A Baby
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New mothers can become easily overwhelmed with little things like diapers, sleeping hours, feeding norms, bottles, what to buy and how many of each, and what-is-that-red-rash-on-my-baby’s-skin reactions. As we have a lot of professional moms in our community, we’d love to flesh it out all about motherhood and shine a ray of light on some of the questions that can easily become an obstacle in a new mother’s mind.
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PACIFIERS PRO’s
For some babies, pacifiers are the key to contentment between feedings. I’ve looked up and researched pros from many source like Mayo Clinic, Baby Center, individual authors, and here are some advantages to consider:
– A pacifier might soothe a fussy baby. Some babies are happiest when they’re sucking on something.
– A pacifier offers temporary distraction. A pacifier might come in handy during shots, blood tests or other procedures.
– A pacifier might help your baby fall asleep. If your baby has trouble settling down, a pacifier might do the trick.
– A pacifier might ease discomfort during flights. Babies can’t intentionally “pop” their ears by swallowing or yawning to relieve ear pain caused by air pressure changes. Sucking on a pacifier might help.
– Pacifiers might help reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). Researchers have found an association between pacifier use during sleep and a reduced risk of SIDS.
– Pacifiers are disposable. When it’s time to stop using pacifiers, you can throw them away. If your child prefers to suck on his or her thumb or fingers, it might be more difficult to break the habit.
WHAT WAS YOUR PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH BABY AND PACIFIER? WHAT WOULD YOU RECOMMEND, ADVISE US ON USING IT OR NOT?
Pacifier was okay for a short while but when ours one by one got lost we just did not purchase anymore. They were good at soothing.
My son never took his pacifier!
I was, actually, wanting him to try it and use, but he refused any type of pacifier I had bought for him!
That was total “rejection!”
my children used them but my grandson never would i say yes but not all the time i see ppl have them in the kids mouth all the time and i have see some big kids with them
it varied with all three my youngest did not use it much! my middle child loved his pacifier!! my daughter for sleep only
Wendi,
It just tells us again: Every child is different, even within the same family!
My kids rejected a pacifier , the grandson used one for just a few months and then rejected it too.
Barbara,
I am very curious, why some babies do not “stick” with the pacifier at all. Like mine, he just spitted it out any time it was put into his mouth.
I have not found any explanation to this phenomenon.
My hypothesis is that some babies have a unique shape of mouth cavity that creates pressure on some vital parts of the mouth and may obstruct the air flow and even create some pressure/pain on the parts of the mouth cavity.
Just me thinking it out loud. No base of my hypothesizing here!
I think its the rubber, they know its not mommy.
PACIFIER CON’s
My Biggest CON for pacifiers is a Dental problem. Obvioulsy it becomes Obvious when teeth show up! This is a sign of overdozing on a pacifier. Some parents allow their toddlers to have it in their mouths up to 5 years-old! It’s rare, but true. Majority allows up to 2-years-old.
Here are the CONs for use of a pacifier fished out of sources like Mayo Clinic, Baby Center, mom’s blogs.
– Early pacifier use might interfere with breast-feeding. Sucking on a breast is different from sucking on a pacifier or bottle, and some babies are sensitive to those differences. Research suggests that early use of artificial nipples is associated with decreased exclusive breast-feeding and duration of breast-feeding — although it’s not clear if artificial nipples cause breast-feeding problems or serve as a solution to an existing problem.
– Your baby might become dependent on the pacifier. If your baby uses a pacifier to sleep, you might face frequent middle-of-the-night crying spells when the pacifier falls out of your baby’s mouth.
– Pacifier use might increase the risk of middle ear infections. However, rates of middle ear infections are generally lowest from birth to age 6 months — when the risk of SIDS is the highest and your baby might be most interested in a pacifier.
– Prolonged pacifier use might lead to dental problems. Normal pacifier use during the first few years of life doesn’t cause long-term dental problems. However, prolonged pacifier use might cause a child’s top front teeth to slant outward or not come in properly.
WHAT WAS YOUR PERSONAL EXPERIENCE AND HOW DID YOU MANAGE – OR WAS IT EASY – TO WEAN YOUR BABY FROM A PACIFIER?
I agree. Using a pacifier too long is not good. I was concerned about dental problems. But they were not used very long.
no mine was not to long and i agree when they get big and lose it well it is gone it did not take long for them to forget about it
when the last one was lost it was just time to ween and it was not that bad really! The bottle was harder really
My kids where breastfeed and knew that pacifier was not mommy, reject from day one.
Barbara,
I am a huge proponent for breastfeeding – that’s a way to go to build baby’s immunity and strength.
Myself, I had no milk. Tried everything I could: from private help, to foods, to special cookies, to milk extractors… It was emotionally painful. I was frustrated to the max. Maybe that was yet another contributor – stress.
But I did not have milk from the my baby’s birth.
So, I had to opt into formula. And THAT was yet another painful experience. Any formula on the market had caused my baby a huge allergic reaction.
We also had a doctor prescribed formula that was made specifically for him in the local drugstore outlet. It did not help. It was a nightmare for a year.
As the years have gone by , they have come out with new options to try.
CO-SLEEPING – ARE YOU IN OR OUT?
We’ve done it with my son for the first 3 months, and we did is with a bed crib, so he could be protected from our bodies. Worked superbly well for all.
With one of my favorite resources What To Expect, here are some PROs for co-sleeping.
The Pros of Co-Sleeping:
Supporters believe that sharing sleeping quarters:
– Encourages breastfeeding by making nighttime nursing more convenient
– Helps a nursing mom get her sleep cycle in sync with her baby’s
– Helps babies fall asleep more easily and go back to sleep more quickly when they wake up during the night
– Leads to more nighttime sleep overall for babies
– Helps parents who don’t see their baby much during the day regain a sense of intimacy with their child
WHAT WAS YOUR EXPERIENCE WITH CO-SLEEPING? TRIED IT AT ANY TIME?
WOULD YOU RECOMMEND IT TO ANYBODY?
We never did co-sleeping. Napping sometimes while just a baby. During that time when I believe the bonding is necessary. But recommending it I guess is on a case by case situation.
At one point, when I was so exhausted that could not even force myself to get up, I decided to try a co-sleeping using a special baby bed. It was placed between my hubby and myself. The Baby was inside and sleeping better at that time. But I did not do it for a long time.
well we did the same put the crib in the room with us so much better but never in bed with us now i can say there was a time or to we did fall asleep but it was short lived i would not recommend sleeping with the baby in the same bed
My kids still sleep with me LOL my 22 year old will come and snuggle here and there and my 12 year old weill snuggle as well i see nothing wrong with it!!! Im their mother and if they need a security for a night well then so be t!! they will always be my babies!! all my babies slept with me or the crib was in the room for a few as well
Im guilty of co sleeping. Both the kids sleep with us and now the grandbaby does. Until my husband gets tired of them kicking him to death. Then he deals with getting them to sleep in there own bed.
The Cons of Co-Sleeping
Anti sleep-sharers point to these disadvantages:
Here are some CONs for Co-Sleeping I dug out from Mayo Clinic, What To Expect.
Potential risks. Again, the AAP advises against sleeping in the same bed for safety purposes, but you can still experience most of the pros if you opt to share a room instead.
– Less sleep for you. Infants toss and turn and burp and bark in their sleep — pretty noisy little creatures to keep close while you’re trying to sleep yourself.
– Less sleep for baby. Your super-attentive tendencies (picking baby up at the first whimper) may actually do more harm than good when it comes to (both of) you getting a good night’s sleep.
– Less whoopee. Let’s face it — can you really let it all hang out when baby is sleeping (or cooing) in the same room? If so, more power to you — your baby won’t remember a thing. But if you’re like most couples, either the two of you — or your child — have got to go for the passion to flow.
– Potential problems later on. While some experts argue that sleep sharing promotes independence by making baby feel secure, others say that the longer you wait to move baby out of your room, the greater the chances he’ll have a tough time adjusting when you finally do.
We transferred out baby to a separate room at the age of 4 months. It’s been a great experience. He’s slept in his own room since then and loving it.
HOW WOULD YOU HANDLE A SITUATION WHEN YOU MEET A MOM WHO’s A PRO CO-SLEEPING?
Would you tell her about the CONS of CoSleeping?
I don’t know how I would exactly approach it. It is her child and I am not raising him or her. Best to just keep my opinion unless directly asked about it.
Lisa,
I think that respectful conversation, where there’s trust, is always welcome.
Nope, I would not push or recommend it to anybody, because we are all different, with different cultures beliefs, education, knowledge base.
i to dont know how i would approach that but i would if it were my daughter and u know what i did tell them this
Karen,
What did you tell them? I am curious as ever!!
Laura i told them dont sleep with your child in the bed if you must but the baby in the room with you it is better to be safe then sorry and they did just that but Hunter was another story he was with them in his own bed next to them for over a year because of his heart condition he had to sleep elevated but now at 3 he is loving his big boy bed
its like religion i feel its your own preference and up to you
I know its helps with independence , I really don’t see a problem, the grandbaby is growing up being very social. I took him to Wal mart the other day and I do believe he went wild. Talking to other kids, singing very loudly and he had himself a very good time. Me , not so much. LOL
Comforting Sound of White Noise
Have you heard that babies sleep better with noise? Yes, it’s been shown in studies. It is explained with ease, as when inside their mom’s body, a baby is constantly surrounded by the noises from heart beat, working organs, the omniotic liquid they’re swimming in. It is a natural environment to be surrounded by noise for babies.
Have you heard that some babies sleep and fall asleep only with running hair dryers, vacuum cleaners, fans? Now, they’re making White Noise machines that produce noises at different frequences for babies to be soothed to sleep.
Many families use fans as a sleeping aid for babies! The biggest benefit of a ceiling fan or a box fan is that research has shown that circulating the air in a baby’s room may reduce the risk of SIDS by 73%. This is a fantastic discovery in the arena of SIDS.
DO YOU HAVE A STORY TO SHARE HOW YOUR BABY(-ies) FELL ASLEEP?
I have heard about white noise. We installed ceiling fans in our home just after we moved in and we used them in every room.
Lisa,
Fans are a great white noice for anybody, not just babies.
I just discovered recently that my son loves a sound of a small fan in his room to fall asleep.
But I did not use white noise frequently in my life with my baby. They really fell asleep on their own.
It’s true. I do sleep better myself with white noise.
ok now with my grandson Jack i never said shh he is sleeping and he would just sleep threw any thing we made noise and let me tell you he can sleep threw any thing now it really works
Karen,
Some children are just like that.
Also, babies do sleep almost any noise. It is recommended not to lower our voices when babies sleep to allow them to adjust to the normal voice range humans speak.
oh Laura your so right wish i knew this when i had my children we walked around on pins and needles lol
Karen,
You are not alone in this one – walking and talking as quietly as you can!
We just need to share this knowledge with those we know who could benefit.
Gosh, learning every time!
i was always told do your normal daily routine activities so the baby could used to the noises in the house and sleep through them! we might not have vacuumed but we talked and carried on like normal and yes the baby would sleep through it all!
None of this every worked on grandbaby, I think the problem was he has a older brother and sister and they make so much noise in the house. Never thought of using those mediation videos we where talking about earlier in the week.
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