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It seems like a Learning Disability subject pops up so frequently these days? What causes it? Environmental factors, the genes mutations, prenatal lifestyle of a mother? As many researches show that all these factors play their role in the severity of different disabilities.
A learning disability affects the way a person understands information and how they communicate. This means they can have difficulty:
- understanding new or complex information
- learning new skills
- coping independently
A learning disability can be mild, moderate or severe. There are a lot of kids with different severity of disabilities that our schools are trying to “classify” in different ways and offer a special route for education.
Today, let’s share and discuss the ways we could support families and individuals with disabilities and point out some resources to read up on and refer to.
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Good Morning Ladies. So sorry it has been a while since I last joined in on AMCoffee. I just finally got the same day off at both jobs, I love today’s topic because it is near to my heart.
good morning and it is close to my heart to I have a 6 yr old autistic grandson
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Good morning! It’s raining here and it’s Spring break.. It’s going to be a looooong day with these 2 kids that live outdoors!
Good morning!!!!!! This is a hard subject today. Because if my own illnesses (no learing disabilities), but being sick my self and disabled and having 3 children. My oldest had autism, anxiety/depression, and ADHD. RABBIDS ARE HIS FAVORITE!!! The games/tv show is as funny as all get out!!! Thank you rabbids for sponsoring!!!
Good morning all. Great subject today. ADD and ADHD run in my family.
Better late than never! It freakin snowed here. I am so done with this!
Good Morning Ladies made it here 2 days in a row lol
Hei, Carmen,
My Power Woman! How is your baby doing?
You actually got me with your April 1st joke!
Good morning. .
Good morning ladies-running late this morning 🙂 Slept a little too long and through my whole schedule off 😉
Good morning! Sitting in a hospital waiting room, but I’m here!
Hey sissy!! Finally got you in here 😀 Chin up he’ll be out of surgery soon (and will be back to his normal self in no time-and hopefully without all that pain)
Good morning! I’m sitting in a hospital waiting room, but I’m here!
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Hi! Just got home from work. Sorry I missed the AM chat.
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Good luck everyone!! Thank you for chatting with me about this issue. I needed to talk about it
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congrats ladies enjoy your day nice talking with you all
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I finally got one of my sisters to join in this morning 😉
Lol- You did good Mandi (if you want to really get lost over there attempt to attend a twitter party 😉 ) ROFL I went to 1 and never felt so lost in my life…. online at least 😀
Haha, Jessica and Mandi,
I get lost on Twitter parties as well. But I did find a easy way on FabChats
There is a grid and it is easy to follow
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Those are really cute.. I’ve never heard of them before.
I love these things they are so ugly they are cute. I would end up collecting these because they are cute and unique.
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It’s a cute line and they are definitely different.”
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They are all really cute but my favorite are the action figures
We don’t have any of the toys but my 13 yr old started asking for the game a couple yrs ago after playing at my nephews house…Lol .He says they are hysterical .I think the plunger gun would be the biggest hit in my house but just looking at any of them makes me laugh. I bet the game is funny
You bet I did!!!!!! I collect the games and watch the shows with my eldest two children Taylor and Sierra 11 and 9. We have had rabbid in our home for 6-7 yrs now!
We don’t have any Rabbids, but they are cute!
What causes learning disabilities?
We need to be educated about this topic Learning Disabilities in order to be not only compassionate and understanding with the people who have it. It is also necessary to be able to provide support to the families and individuals with Learning Disabilities: whether it is moral support or guidance of how to get professional support.
A learning disability happens when a person’s brain development is affected, either before they are born, during their birth or in early childhood.
Several factors can affect brain development, including:
– the mother becoming ill in pregnancy
– problems during the birth that stop enough oxygen getting to the brain
– the unborn baby developing certain genes
– the parents passing certain genes to the unborn baby that make having a learning disability more likely (known as inherited learning disability)
– illness, such as meningitis, or injury in early childhood
Sometimes there is no known cause for a learning disability.
Statistical Facts:
– Around 15 per cent of the world’s population, or estimated 1 billion people, live with disabilities. They are the world’s largest minority.
– This figure is increasing through population growth, medical advances and the ageing process, says the World Health Organization (WHO).
yes it has become a epidemic in my case grandson has autism it was 1 out of 88 kids now it is 1 out 68 are born with it and that is scary and we do not know why this is happing I don’t know much about what his mom did during her pregantcy I have had my grandson son as soon as he was born and I adopted him so I have rasied him from birth
Karen Hinkle you are an amazing woman for taking him in. I know for myself people with Autism are at times hard to work with. My niece has many outbursts if she does not get what she wants and starts to pound her fists. The only thing I know that she loves and keeps her calm is watching Hockey. She can talk you ear off about hockey.
yes but I have been schooled at about 15 monts we knew he had autism so we started him in school and has been in school scence and it all about routine and he has been no verbal till recentaly he is starting to talk some he love any kinda motor sports he is into game show network to he loves it and he is moking the words to gotta love it
There is so much joy when a child with autism starts talking, Actually, any milestone for them is fantastic. It is delayed gratification and so worth it.
I adopted our children. They have SPD, FAS. Birth parents did drugs and alcohol. They were delayed, however with early intervention and hard work they are on track. They are both very intelligent and doing awesome in school.
Way to go proud of the work you have done with these kids.
hello Wendy yes as parents of special needs children its up to us to get them on track great job
Wendy,
That is great they have a parent like you. I always say we have a angels in our lives. You are your childrens angel.
My son has learning disabilities due to Autism.. 4 out of 5 of my sister’s kids have some form of a learning disability, including dyslexia and other disabilities.
hi Cynitha glad u could join us
Welcome so happy to talk with you today.
Strange how the number would increase with all of the technology that we have this day in age. I mean I can understand that some with LD issues are living longer but then again we have the technology to catch some problems in utero which in some cases some people choose to terminate (please do not slam me for saying this, until/if you are in that situation)
hi Erica
I agree with you so much on this. I hope one day they will come up with something to help all the people with all types of disabilities.
It breaks my heart or my son. He gets ridiculed at school, simply because he isn’t “the same”. When in all reality HE IS! He is such a good child that loves like no other and is very kind. He does get easily frustrated and I can understand why. Living with a severe case of ADHD is bad on it’s own, but when you add in autism…. Things only get more and more confusing. I have several friends with children that have autism that go though the daily struggles that I do….. And it breaks my heart for them as well 🙁
well Mandi it is our children we want the best for them and what is out of our control is hard for us to understand how ppl are I feel for you
Mandi,
Having support of others with kids with Autism does contribute to your knowledge and experience.
Also, the most important thing you can give to your son is to feed his interests and hobbies where he can excel.
Many autistic kids are geniuses and have so many gifts. The parent’s role is to help locate that special gift within them and help it to develop. Your child would thrive.
Thank you Karen and Laura! Yeah my son is an AMAZING artist!!! I wished I could post pics here of what he has drawn. And has the best story telling skills I’ve seen in such a young child. He darted trying to write his own book at the age of seven, he draws hilarious comic strips…. He is simply amazing. And I have learned a lot of coping skills from my friends!! 🙂
Mandi I wish I could see what he has done. I think that is fantastic on how well he can draw. Like you said they all have their own special talents.
Mandi, I would be very interested in learning the skills your friends have taught you.
I think it breaks all of our hearts because we want them to be treated just like everyone else but in this day and age people don’t know how to treat or react to people with disabilities. I had read something today that I was doing to be polite to find out I was dead wrong. So I hope people will see things different like I found out today
Amen to that!!!! I mean seriously, a lot of it falls on parents for allowing their children to bully kids
With disabilities. People should raise their children with more common decency. I was raised to know better and have compassion.
Mandi yes they should but a lot of them don’t and teach them how to do just the opposite. Kids learn from their parents and many parent just don’t seem to care because they are not going threw it and just don’t understand how hard it is for these children and adults.
I have seen you and I post things for giveaways on many different sites just for the kids to help them and keep them focused. I wish I had some answers for all of us, but in the end there will still be people who choose to bully the children with disabilities because they are easy targets. And that is the hardest part to deal with. It breaks my heart to see this happen
I agree and I taught that to my children too. And most of them got the message except one. Who even hurts me by the things she says and does. When I have been in her life for a long time (step-daughter). And it truely hurts me, so just imagine how the others feel on a daily basis.
Mandi, you are truely inspiring and I love what you have offered up today. Thank you form the bottom of my heart.
My first born daughter was born with learning disabilites.. we never found out what caused them.. but today you would lever know it.. she was in AP and Advanced classes in high school and finished with a 3.7 GPA..
Carmen that is wonderful, be proud of her because a lot of kids and adults do not have the chance to get away from their learning disabilities. I am so happy she is doing will I am proud of you and her for doing such a great job. Keep up the good work.
It does seem like more and more kids are being diagnosed with some form of learning disabilities
I just read a recent research, about 2-3 weeks ago, that Polution in Air is one of the Causes for Autism. It was a clinical study paper.
The rate of autism is on the rise. I do believe it is environmental.
I want to do so much more, but sometimes our hands are tied at how much we can do. I want to teach the kids who are picking on the others that it is wrong and how hard it is for them. All I can do is protect the ones I see and make it a point to say Hello and smile at them. Only because they always have a smile on their face always.
Wow!!! I did not know that!!! This insane, but I can believe it!!!
Wow I did not know that and if that is the case I wish they could do something to help keep the pollution to a minimum so our children could have a better life.
Tammy,
Everything we do now even if it is small will make a big impact in the future for our children and their children and so on.
I do know living with ADHD inattentive my whole life and my kids having same thing has been challenging at times. Those who have autism and take care of autistic children have far more challenges. My brother’s son was just diagnosed with being slightly autistic. He has always been close to me which he is now 19 yrs old and wants so much to be normal. Kodos all who take care of and whom have learning disabities.
My husband is ADHD and it so effects our relationship. Many times I get so frustrated with him but have to stop and tell myself it is not his fault.
I just wish his mother did some sort of behavioral therapy with him when he was younger. Life would be so much easier for him now. His mother was one of those people that was like “okay, oh well”
MY 2nd son (13 ) seems to of inherited his fathers ADHD .Both have VERY busy minds (my husband is medicated -my son chooses not to be at this time but probably will be at some point in the very near future as he is struggling severely in 7th grade)
Jessica,
Behavioral Therapy!!!!
What is this?? I’ll need to research it and ask the doc if he thinks it will help
My so. Takes concerta and I swear to god it’s night and day!!!!
What are some of the wide-spread disabilities we encounter on the daily basis?
– Some conditions are associated with having a learning disability, such as Cerebral Palsy. This is because people with these conditions are more likely to have one.
– Everyone with Down’s syndrome, for example, has some kind of learning disability, and so do many people with cerebral palsy.
– People with Autism may also have learning disabilities.
– Around 30% of people with Epilepsy have a learning disability.
– A diagnosis of a Profound and Multiple Learning Disability (PMLD) is used when a child has more than one disability, with the most significant being a learning disability.
Many children diagnosed with PMLD will also have a sensory or physical disability, complex health needs, or mental health difficulties. People with PMLD need a carer or carers to help them with most areas of everyday life, such as eating, washing and going to the toilet.
WHAT IS YOUR EXPERIENCE WITH THE PEOPLE OF DIFFERENT ABILITIES? Do you have anybody in the family who is affected by any of the conditions above?
Statistical Facts:
• In countries with life expectancies over 70 years, individuals spend on average about 8 years, or 11.5 per cent of their life span, living with disabilities.
• Eighty per cent of persons with disabilities live in developing countries, according to the UN Development Programme (UNDP).
In my family we have one with Down’s and one with Autism. My daughter was born premature and had a grade 4 brain bleed and said she would have learning disabilities. But thank God she is doing just fine.
yes my grandson has autism and I have to do every thing in a different way for him
I have a friend whose child has aspergers. She is such a sweet and very bright young lady.
My niece has autism and my sister in law has downs
My 3 year old, Jeremy, has Autism. He’s very high functioning and mainly has muscle tone problems. He is doing very well in school and is highly intelligent.
Just wow on the stats
Wow!!! That’s insane!!! These statistics are EYE OPENING!! Although I am not surprised by the numbers of people affected! And autism seems to run very high in my family thus far that I know of, my father
Has it, my brother and his two sons, and my own eldest son Taylor. I worry everyday about my youngest son 10 months old, developing this as well. 🙁
wow I never knew this
I have family members whos children/child have autism, dyslexia. My sister work at place and take care of ppl with extreme learning disabilities. ..
I suffered from childhood epilepsy but luckily did not seem to suffer any learning disabilities from it (had many grand mal seizures I do not remember but the last one was when I was 12. I consider myself blessed to of outgrown it (I remember being jelous of my siblings as a kid because I couldn’t have artificial sweetners or play most video games because they made me have seizures)
My nephew was diagnosed with Assburger’s syndrome which now is considered Slightly Autistic. He has many struggles on daily basis. Everyone around him doesn’t understand and has to learn about this disability in order to understand him more. You have to teach your self how to communicate with him. I grow up and was not diagnosed with ADHD til I was an adult. I always felt I was different from others ever since I could remember and it makes you feel empty almost.
My neighbors son has it. The mom is in denial about her sons disability. Just speaking to him I could tell. All the neighbors say how strange he is and not normal. (he is a adult 24). They never got him help. He is 24 has a BA and a MBA but can not get a job because he was never given the life skills. He can not get through a interview!
I remember, when it was in 1st grade, having a friend come over to play Atari & my sister going into an epileptic seizure. My mom rushed in the room and made my friend & I leave. I didn’t understand what was going on at the time.
People with disabilities live in a world designed for the able-bodied people. But they do want to live a normal life as well and treated with respect and care like anybody else who doesn’t have disabilities.
Adjust and Adapt are 2 words of harsh reality that people with disabilities have to deal with.
Accepting Disability and Redefining Life within the limitations imposed by disease is the biggest hurdle for people with disabilities. There are harsh realities:
– Expensive equipment and medications may be required
– Mobility scooters, adapted vans
– Voice-recognition software, orthotics
– Medical treatment, and
– Myriad types of assistive equipment
All of the above can and does improve daily living for people with disabilities. but it all comes at a price. While life becomes more expensive, too often the ability to work diminishes. Financial security takes a big hit. An uncertain future can make a person and the family caring for her/him fearful.
What Can Be Done?
• Always look for and Research the sources that support people with Disabilities. There are amazing Local organizations that take care of and support a wide variety of disabilities.
• A great source of information is Human Rights of Persons with Disabilities
Statistical Facts:
• Disability rates are significantly higher among groups with lower educational attainment in the countries of the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD), says the OECD Secretariat. On average, 19 per cent of less educated people have disabilities, compared to 11 per cent among the better educated.
You forgot to mention that when these people reach adulthood you have to go to Court and get guardianship over them because they cannot make decisions on their own and that take money and it is not a one time thing.
Tammy,
This is one of the major facts indeed.
So much money besides money spent on treatments and taking care of such individuals.
Very valid point. Thank you.
You are welcome.
Tammy,
I work in mental health. I can not tell you the amount of times that parents get “sick” of their adult child who has some sort of LD issue and they “dump” them on the medical hospitals because they can no longer handle them. It is so sad.
On the flip side of that I have also seen where the parents have passed and the adult with the LD issue has no one as the rest of the family does not want anything to do with them. We have had pt’s who have no family at all and they live in a nursing home and they are only 30!
that’s a real shame
yes I know this all to well I have had to quite working to take care of my grandson and it had been very stressful and the lack of working makes it hard when you have no income coming in andyou live on a fixed income it is so hard to get the things and treatment that he needs so I do all the research on line and with the help of the schools and do it at home it has been a long hard road but I guess this is my purpose on earth for me
Karen,
You may have already researched this but behavioral therapy. Is this a option for you? Also, changing his diet. When I was a undergrad I took a class solely on autism and these are some of the things we studied. I also used to do ABA therapy. Is he enrolled in that?
I know here in Ohio there are programs that allow you to get ABA therapy for no cost to you.
no I cant get him enrolled in that my hubby is retired threw GM and our insurance don’t cover it but if he was still working they would and his medicade only payes till 5 so I do it all on my own
No government help?
That is a shame if you can not get it. Are there any schools in your area that specialize in Autism.
Also, if the school district can not accommodate him then they have to pay to have him in a school that does.
It is a long hard road with lots of financial stress. I wouldn’t change it for the world though.
Wendy,
It is a huge stress, no matter how much you really are dedicated to this process. I would like to see more support in the form of local organizations and chapters providing services to families with disabled children, little and grown-up, too.
@Erica no help no schools in our little town but we are trying to get him to go to regular school he has been in school for now 4 yrs now he is 6 now and we are breaking our goals for him I did not know about any programs that will help me
Way to go Wendy . That’s how we all feel. You are so right
ditto to all that
My dad had a stroke and it left him a quadriplegic.. That was back in 1990 and there weren’t nearly as many accommodations for him as there are today.. What still gets me though, is people that feel they have the right to take parking spots that are clearly not meant for them. That’s an entirely different story..
Haha, like the woman that was driving the Expedition and pulled into the handicap spot got out of the car easily and strolled into the store.
Just wow, is all I can say.
Cynthia,
This is actually is Part of the story.
Every time I park anywhere, I park far away from the entry. I am so thankful to be able to walk and use my legability to get myself from point A to point B.
Parking far away is a healthy lifestyle choice. Parking close when you are able body is just plain lazy.
I wish people would understand special needs more..
Living with a disability is THE BIGGEST hurdle I have had in my life!! I have been disabled since the age of 10. So for 15 years I’ve been living in my own “hell” on earth, and for 10 years have been trying to help my son through his. My cousin just got put in an assisted living home because of the severe nature of her mental illness and retardation. 🙁 I took her cat that she over so much in though. She was freaking out worried
To death that her cat would go back to the shelter. And she has to have a power of attorney ect. She lost her house after 50 years of life. I just don’t understand what changed 🙁
Mandi,
Though each situation is so unique and personal, it is a huge pain to see the aftermath and development of each situation. My heart goes out to you and your family.
What you need to know is Having A Solid Support Group Would Alleviate pain and psychological loneliness.
Come to this community any time to share and talk out about your needs, your worries, anything that needs to be poured out and said.
yes Mandi that’s what we are her for the support of one another thanks for sharing
Thank you! And yeah having a support system is a wonderful thing. Thank you all for caring!!
My sister works at a place called wendall foster center..they take care of ppl with disabilities. She loves the 3 guys she is responsible for taking care of.
I think it is hardest to find the help that is out there for people with disabilities and a lot of times the average working “middle” class struggles the most (The rich can pay for what they need and pay someone to make sure those needs are met,the poor are often guided toward help and fully or mosted funded…although Ive seen struggle getting things funded) but if you make just alittle too much money (but not enough to cover your needs) …..those are the people I have seen struggling with the disabilities of their loved ones the most (from finding whats available to being able to fund it)
Jessica,
That’s been my research and experience as well. Middle class take the brunt of the situation in a most severe way.
I admire all who go through life with disabilities and care for children as well as adults. They have so many challenges and people don’t realize the cost or the emotional toll it takes on a person /persons.
What To Do When Parents or Family Care Takers Die leaving behind a Disabled Person?
Sometimes reality is harsh when family leaves behind a person with limited abilities to participate in life and take care of herself/himself.
But do not be despaired. There are Organizations that have exactly the purpose to accommodate those people with disabilities after their parents are gone.
I found an amazing story about such situation in Vancouver, Canada. Planned Lifetime Advocacy Network (PLAN) is designed to secure futures for family members with disabilities.
In the US, there are a lot of LOCAL organizations that secure placement for disabled people who lose their main caretakers to death.
Do NOT Get Despaired if you are in a similar situation. Hope and Help IS Avalable, and your child will have a quality life in case something happens to you.
Statistical Facts:
• Women with disabilities are recognized to be multiply disadvantaged, experiencing exclusion on account of their gender and their disability.
• Women and girls with disabilities are particularly vulnerable to abuse. A small 2004 survey in Orissa, India, found that virtually all of the women and girls with disabilities were beaten at home, 25 per cent of women with intellectual disabilities had been raped and 6 per cent of women with disabilities had been forcibly sterilized.
My sister in law has gone to great lengths to make sure my niece has someone to take care of her in the event. If anything should happen to them I would even offer to take care of her, because she is a gem in her own way.
this is my biggest fear who will take care of my grandson should any thing happen to me I don’t know who would take that scafrise to do that that’s why I am teaching him to be independent and to be able to do things on his own I sure hope someone would be willing to do it but it takes a special kind of person to do it and I want to have a great life but who will do that I don’t have a clue
You need to look at the people he spends time with besides you. Is there other family? Look to them and let them get to know what he is like and what it takes to care for him. And before you know it you will see just who loves him just as much as you do. You might not see it because you are to busy caring for him.
I do but they have there own lives and I educate them all the time just to find a sitter is a big thing to let them know his routine I sure hope if something where to happen he would be well taking careof he is quite the little man
that is so great of you to do that for her Tammy
She love her Uncle and I because we also love Hockey and we have something to take her mind off of what is going on. Yes it is a lot of hard work but I think everyone needs someone. I know I do.
Wow, such sad and discouraging statistics.
It’s comforting to know, that if something were to happen to me and there is no one else left to care for Jeremy, there is someone out there that will help.. As soon as he’s old enough, I’m going to inform him of that.
This is exactly what I mentioned above to Tammy. Working in mental health I have seen so many people get dumped in a mental heath unit just because the care facility does not want to handle them anymore (yes, it happens A LOT).
We have had pt’s who are unable to take care of themselves and I mean are not able to walk. But just because they lashed out at a nursing home worker they are whisked away and spend weeks in the mental health unit just because the care facility will not take them back.
wow I never knew that.. I am glad that people with disabilities are taken care of after their care taker passes away
Very sad but very true statistics. I would rather not go
Into detail about it….. I just can’t. I’m sorry….. It’s just too painful to go there
Wow..such disturbing statistics. .makes me sad
My cousin suffers several disabilities the most notable (and treatable) being her schizophrenia (which my Daddy also is) and I have found both have and are regularly taken advantage of by people in this world . My cousin….even more so than my dad ,especially when she was a young adult (emotionally,financially and sexually) She is married now and has felt bullied by her doctors numerous times (My dads Dr recently tried to talk him into a lobotomy (which has never been proven to cure his disability which is why they don’t do them anymore!)
I had forgot to mention my great uncle whom had the cord wrapped around his neck at birth. He had been in a home since I could remember. Our family made sure he was there for every family event.
A great inspirational story by Rachelle Friedman on the subject of… A few insights about how you can desensitize your child around people with disabilities.
Rachelle is quadriplegic and is a Blogger, a Speaker, and an Ambassador for the spinal cord injury community.
Visit her blog for more inspiration and her own story of life of living with disability.
Statistical Facts:
• Comparative studies on disability legislation shows that only 45 countries have anti-discrimination and other disability-specific laws.
Okay very good point she brought up was how people jump out of the way not realizing how this could affect the children they have with them. I actually never looked at it that way like she stated, but this has opened my eyes in a whole new way. Thank you for the information I will try to be more like the mom who did not react and let the young boy learn on his own and he was wonderful for going back to say Thank you and giving you a hug. Truly inspiring.
I go out of my way to protect my niece from others who stare at her when they do not understand. I keep her focused on something else so she does not see others staring or making rude comments about her outbursts. I think I might be a little more open now.
we need to educate the public it is our job to do it and yes ppl stare and look at you but they are uneducated and I tell you when me and my grandson go out and ppl look I just tell him he has autism and hope they know what that means but he is kinda well behaved but he stems and make so loud out burst but that’s just he responding to the situation
Exactly, they are uneducated!
Thank you for the link. I have had people make rude comments or stare. I just explain to my kids that some people don’t understand and need to be educated. Also I have always told my kids everyone is different. We look past that and look at the person they are.
but as a parent of a special needs child I look at thing different to when I see a child having a melt down in the store I know they are not bad children they are just trying to ajust to the surrounding
People really need to educate their children. As a parent, it’s your job to raise your children to be respectful and aware of possible situations and people they may encounter in life. There are too many people that have children but aren’t willing to “raise” them or take the effort to talk to them and guide them.
I agree Cynthia we have to raise our children to respect other we are all not the same and have different situation
Here, here
I teach my children to have compassion and to help others in need wether they are physically, mentally impaired they should help and care about everyone no matter what…
My beat friend Sean got into a car accident in highschool and was paralyzed from the waste down. I went through it with him and saw the devastating effects it has had on him and his family. Even us as his friends. The one thing that has pissed me off more than anything, are the people staring! They just don’t realize how much it hurts that person. I know that it’s sometimes human to take notice but
For Christ sake don’t just sit there and stare. It’s also similar when
I am simply trying to get my child with ADHD and Autism to calm down in a grocery store and stop throwing a tantrum. People don’t think to stop and help, they just stare, roll their eyes, and have heard some whisper *what a horrible mother, I would never let my kid act that way*. It’s all so frustrating in the world we live in today. I think I might just send her an email!!! 🙂
I try to teach my 4 kids to be compassionate and undering. And if they have questions just ask instead of staring
I try to teach my 4 kids to be compassionate and undering. And if they have questions just ask instead of staring.
I have always told my children that there were some people that were different from them but they are the same as us as far as their feelings go. I taught them never to tease anyone and to stick up for people when they were being tease because it could be them.
I don’t mean to offend anyone by what I have said above. I just can’t think of what I wanted to say so I am sorry if it comes off the wrong way.
I grew up with a quadriplegic boy in my class-he is one of the sweetest guys I’ve ever known and my children have met him many times (he works at the local grocery). I let my kids ask ?’s if they want and they’ve been taught young that nothing is wrong with different (Its been helpful that my father is deaf and schizophrenic which we explained to them ,his ears don’t work the same as yours and he sometimes “dreams” when he’s awake)
I think today’s topic is a very important one that everyone needs to be aware of. Thank you!
This topic is important for everyone to learn about.. Thanks for the info
Thank you friends for all of your stories!!! And thank you celebrate woman/am coffee for this amazing subject matter today. As you could see there was ALOT I NEEDED to get off my chest about it!! And a big thanks to LAURA and THE RABBIDS for this amazing, informational topic. As it is 100% my life. It’s all I’ve ever known.
Between my own epilepsy and my families physical and mental disablities I too grew up around them…..didn’t always make it easier but always made me more aware.It is a Very important topic and a lot of people don’t know how to deal with and handle them (even I who did grow up with them have struggled with dealing with them)
Good Morning Everyone 🙂
Good morning LaKishia. Hope you have a great day 🙂
Boy I think you found a touchy subject. Not many people want to talk or learn about people with disabilities. I know I have learned a couple of things today and will be more aware of what I do and how I react when I am out and see others with disabilities and more open when my niece has an outburst. Thank you.
agree thay think if its not me or my family its not for tham but in fact they need to be educated that’s what we are here to do
Correct and as you see not many want to participate in this conversation because they do not want to learn how to react with ppl like this and to me it is very sad.
I am sad to but hopefully they are still coming
This is such a touchy subject. One that I am getting fired up about because I see what happens to these individuals when they are not wanted anymore. It really puts my panties in a twist!
that’s so sad I hope someone will take care of my grandson when I am gone but I am 47 so I hope I live long enough to get him independent it going pretty good but still have a long way to go with him and big fear is he is a runner he will just take off we have alarms on door and a fence back yard locks on every thing I need a GPS for him terrified he will get lost
It is very sad. I believe they have watches that have GPS in them.
I sure hope more ppl join this conversation today I am so shocked it is me and Tammy thanks
I am glad I have you to talk to. I hope we can learn and help each other.
Karen,
Surprised a bit, too, that many do not join in.
But… here’s one of the epic signs that some people do not have enough knowledge about this situation and its totality.
Second, some may not have time this morning and may pop up here later in the day to read all threads.
But due to the 1st reason, many do not feel compelled to join in.
That is why we picked this topic of Caring After People with Disabilities to bring more awareness to this situation and raise our social guard and notice line when we observe these situations in real life.
To me, it is a moral obligation.
I hope some do join later I know more ppl out there are dealing with or know someone who is but thanks for doing my subject it has been hard just like ppl joing this conversation thanks Laura for all you do
Karen,
It is my world, my life, too. We do care after people with some illnesses and disabilities. Bringing awareness and understanding to different Types and Sides of Disabilities would raise moral awareness and even do a shift in perception and thinking about disabilities overall.
I think it is also hard for people that are dealing with it everyday to talk about…..I spent half my life “hiding” my fathers mental disability because once people knew-things seemed to change. As a kid suddenly kids weren’t allowed to play at my house or come to my parties. My mom used to tell me it was their loss but I felt the sting of loss too when I was open with people over the years (As an adult I realize how very right my mother was) but I also understand why people don’t want to talk about it ….I think sometimes its fear of peoples reactions othertimes embarrassment and other times just ignorance at its finest
Good morning all. My first time here as I’m usually not too coherent this early. I’m on the west coast.
Welcome Martha. You chose a good day to join.
Good morning Martha!! Happy to see you here this morning! I hope you are
Having a wonderful day 🙂
I learned about people with disabilities at a very early age. My aunt got polio when she was 6 months old and had to wear on of those hideous leg braces in order to walk. I also had 2 uncles with Parkensons disease. One couldn’t do anything for himself the other luckily was able to work menial jobs for a long time. People always stared when we went out.
This is a great subject and I think there is more people out there than we think that deal with this topic in one way or another. Years ago this kind of thing was not talked about at all in families and people where locked away. Which was so wrong I feel. People should learn more about what others go through and then would be more understanding / appreciative.